How Do You Feel About This?

Being that I work in a salon now there's undoubtedly always talk about hair going on. I work in a  sort of mixed environment which means we also see a sort of mixed clientele, and from what I've seen the stylists who have done "ethnic hair" seem to do a good job at it. I've watched them do really nice blowouts and flatiron finishes on the relaxed black girls who have come into the salon, who seem to be mostly texturized ... IDK too much about the hair-care part though, they just see it and know to straighten it. I've also noticed that quite a great deal of the white stylists have black boyfriends, so some of them have dabbled in ethnic hair practices.
Now I know I'm trying to ask a question here so let me get to the point...
In many a conversation with my stylist friends who are curious about "ethnic hair" or listening to the instructors during our advanced training classes, I continue to listen to them refer to our hair as coarse, kinky, nappy, or refer to the curl as too tight. I haven't said anything, being that I'm really like the only natural black woman in the salon (aside from one manager who's transitioning out of Loc's) and I don't want to come off as an ABW - Angry Black Woman or black supremacist, but after a while of hearing us be boxed into one nappy category and make it seem like we need one nappy product, it's hard to not feel a certain way sometimes. Especially because soooo many people come to me with their questions and curiosities, knowing about YAIS and the fact they see I have natural, healthy, hair that I care for and style quite often. Now don't get me wrong, it's not always like this, but should i ever be left feeling this way at all?

How would you feel? Any advice on how I should handle this situation? I'd love some feedback!